What is love???

Love is a caring, patient, selfless fond feeling toward a person. As time goes by, it will nurture to a beautiful relationship.


People said love is between two persons but marriage is between two families.


I do understand the above but I am a great believer as long as two persons are in love and committed, why couldn't they be together. They can fight all obstacles, be strong together, stay by each other, grow together and many others things. A real romantic!!


So when one of the family does not like the partner, what do you do??? Give up or carry on? Why give up? Isn't love a very special feeling that you have with a certain person? If you can easily get this feeling from someone else, then is that really love or what? I know it easier for me to said the former as it does not happen in my family. I have not experience such painful experience where your family members are so unhappy with you. But I know it will be very stressful, pressure and many unhappy incidents such as words exchange, sarcastic remarks, nagging etc will occur. Especially when all these come from the person you love and respect. It takes a lot of courage to continue.


The next thing I have in mind is why can't the family member just be a bit more open minded since the party is someone you care and love so much. Why make things difficult for him or her? You also hope they have the best in this world. Respect their decision. Put in this way, whether a relationship work or not, shouldn't it in the first place depends on the two parties in love. Maybe in the future they realised they are not suitable and end it. Or maybe without the family objection, the relationship could blossom into something wonderful. Why aren't they given such opportunity? Isn't it a waste? Maybe is the family belief but all these can be changes. Take an example, as years goes by, when the government find some rules or regulations are no longer applicable or effective, they will make amendment to the law so that it has the best fit in today's world. Initially some may not accept the changes but as times goes by they maybe glad for these changes, used to it or remind disturb with it. However, life still goes on.


I know all these are my one sided thoughts. I am not that person that going through the pain, I do not feel it. I can just talk and talk. So what can the two person in love do??? The relationship is under pressure, will it continue to grow or has it been strained?? Should they just let go of the relationship, since love does not means that they have to be together forever? Seeing the person you love is in pain, what will you do. In dilemma, right??? I always thought when two person end a relationship is mainly due to different personalities, not suitable, cannot compromise, no longer have feeling etc. Where long term, both cannot accept each other and not any other reason. When a relationship nurtures, doesn't mean your partner is very special to you and you want to walk your reminding life with him or her. Isn't he or her becomes part of your family too?? Isn't that how a new family is form.


Something for sure, I am a dreamer. All these are just my one sided feelings. There are people who do not agree my view. Its alright. I think it is better to try hard now than regret in the future. At least, I can answer to myself. Maybe in the future I will laugh at myself for being foolish and wasting my youth (as if I still got), but isn't this call "life". Where you have all the ups and downs. Where you need to put in effort to achieve something that you treasure very much......

Happy Valentine!!! May all couples have a fulfilling relationship and never have to experience the above. Cheers.